As a dark skinned woman in America, I’ve been told plenty of times that red lipstick or any lip stick color in general would not be suitable for me because “lipstick wasn’t made for dark skinned women.” It’s shocking to know that this stigma against black women is still alive and well. In America’s eyes, it’s bad enough that I cursed myself by returning to my natural locks, but now I’ve decided to wear lipstick? How tragic! *insert sarcasm*
Even abysmal rapper A$AP Rocky has gone out of his way to share about his disgust of darker women wearing red lipstick. One may think, ‘oh who cares about the opinion of some rapper guy,’ but the truth is that he is only regurgitating what he has been taught all of his life–dark skinned women are ugly.
Well I’m here to prove that this statement is a complete and utter lie. Any shade of the spectrum can wear any color lipstick they want because all shades of brown are beautiful. For far too long, darker women have been oppressed on their choices to do what they want with both their hair and faces and I’m not gonna take it anymore.
It really does not matter how anyone feels about my choice and other dark skinned women’s choice to wear lipstick. If we like it, we’ll wear it with our faces beat for the gawds! And you can continue to be mad…from OUTSIDE of the club 🙂
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The woman pictured above is Rhonda Lee, a former meteorologist at KTBS 3 News in Louisiana. Lee says she was fired from the station because of the comments that she made on the KTBS Facebook page.
Lee professionally responded to people on the Facebook page who wrote ignorant things about her hair such as ‘unless she is a cancer patient, she needs to grow her hair out.’ (click the link to see a screenshot of her response) She also responded to a viewer who accused her of being racist because all of the children in a segment were black. You can also see her response in the link above.
What bothers me about this story is that no one in this story understood why Lee defended her choice of hairstyle. Everyone around her kept pressuring her to grow her hair out so she could be employed. Why does a woman have to have a weave in order to report the weather? What does a hairstyle have to do with a persons ability to perform at their job well?
If it wasn’t clear before, it is clear now that natural hair is still not welcomed in the workplace or in public. It is also made clear that if you respond to hecklers by trying to educate them on why and how your hair grows the way in which it does, you are doing something wrong. Once again, black women must shut up and roll over so the world can stomp on us and if we don’t let them then something is wrong with us.
I’m not here for people who think that black women should change every part of themselves to appeal to white American culture, why can’t we express who we are and be proud of it?
According to Mintel.com, relaxer/perm sales have declined 26% over the past five years. Undoubtedly this drop in sales is a result of an influx of women ditching relaxers and embracing their natural hair textures or locking their hair. But what does this mean for the black hair care industry? Well they either have the choice of hopping on the bandwagon and creating a natural hair care line or start promoting their relaxers heavily.
Recently I have seen perm companies split on this decision. Dark & Lovely, a notorious brand for relaxers has taken both routes. They have taken it upon themselves to start a natural hair care line as well as promo their ads on predominately black television stations. It is clear that they are taking these methods in order to fill their gap in sales.
On the contrary, Motions, another notorious brand for relaxers, has decided to only launch a new line of natural hair care products. We have yet to see any promotion from them about the relaxer line, so they are most likely hoping that their former loyal customers who used to buy their relaxers will try their natural hair care line.
The future of relaxers is looking dim, but I don’t think they will completely disappear anytime soon. As long as they keep implementing and preying on the insecurities of black women, I have a feeling these companies will still be in business years from now.
In the year 2014, it is still shocking to see that wearing dread locks in the workplace is still considered a taboo. A lot of people still view dread locks as unprofessional, or associate it with heavy drug use such as marijuana,
My purpose in posting about this is not to continue beating a dead horse, but to instead ask all of you readers a couple questions. Why is the way in which we wear our hair so important to others? How can we change the dynamics so that way every hair type can be accepted?
The picture that I have posted above is of 2,000 year old mummy found in Egypt. What fascinates me about this discovery is that even after being embalmed for over 2,000 years, the kinks on the head of this mummy are still intact. Away from proving that ancient Egyptians were indeed black, this discovery also brings about the question of how is this possible?
To the Egyptians, hair was seen as a status symbol and so they always wanted their hair styles to stay in place and last for a while. In order to accomplish this the Egyptians used a fat-based gel in their hair. Because they didn’t want the hair to degrade as much as the body would, they would also use this gel in the hair for the mummification process. You can read the article in full detail here.
The gel used is still unknown but I sure do hope they are close to finding out what type of gel it was. I can barely get a style to last more than 3 days, much less years after I’m dead. Do you know what would happen to the natural hair community if that gel was sold in stores?
No, the picture above is not real, it has been Photoshopped. However, with the recent rise in black women returning to their natural roots, the question of whether or not America is ready for a natural first lady comes into play.
It is no secret that when a black woman wears her natural hair, she is seen as militant, unkempt or unprofessional. Although the natural hair community is making strides to dispel this stigma, natural hair is still not widely accepted across America.
With the Obama family constantly under scrutiny about menial subjects, having a first lady who embraces her natural hair texture is not ideal. As depicted in The New Yorker in July of 2008, Michelle Obama was painted as a militant black panther with a terrorist husband. The fact that this magazine cover was allowed to be sold and was supported by many Americans leads me to believe that we are still in an age where having African features verses European features is unethical. Will America ever be ready to embrace a kinky textured first lady? That I am not sure of.
Take a look at this article on xojane.com to view the cover of The New Yorker that I referred to earlier.
I am so tired of hearing the phrase, “I went natural before it was popular.” Yes, we are all aware of the influx of newly natural haired women, but it is not fair to marginalize their journey’s because yours started before theirs. Now that the natural hair community had grown larger than in previous years, this phrase has become more and more common against seasoned naturals. But you tell me, after you read this article, do you believe that seasoned naturals are justified in their right to brag? Let me know in the comments below.
Every natural black woman has at one point or another been told that their natural hair will guarantee that they will be single forever. We are constantly reminded that black men do not like nappy hair and neither do any other race of men. But why should the way in which my hair naturally grows, eliminate me from finding true love? It is not uncommon to find many marriages on the rocks due to the natural hair movement. Men who claim to be turned off and disgusted by their wives decisions to return to their natural hair have practically threatened to end their marriages unless their wives turn back to getting relaxers. It is as if the influx of black women embracing their roots is seen as a threat to some black men. But why is this so? If we examine it from a historical aspect, generations upon generations of women were told that in order to be accepted in society and to be hired for jobs, one’s hair had to be neat and straight–the closer to European hair, the better. So in order to stay afloat in society and keep a roof over their heads, black women complied. However, this soon transferred over to the general view of black women as Eurocentric ideas of beauty became more demanding and visible. Now that the Eurocentric idea of beauty has taken over the black community, this is all that black men are used to seeing throughout their lifetimes. Thus in return, black men and women view their own natural hair as ugly and unkempt. Black men are also taught to only date and marry women with straight, long flowing hair as a form of high status level. With this ideology running rampant within the black community, it is no wonder that past generations of black people are against the natural hair movement. It is also a major part of the reason why it is believed that black women with natural hair cannot be chosen to be brides. Having natural hair does not make me unsuitable for marriage. What allows some black men to view me as unsuitable for marriage are their own insecurities. The idea that they will be considered less of a man if their woman does not have long flowing tresses and the idea that Eurocentric forms of beauty are what I should conform to are what clouds their mindsets not my kinky hair texture. Natural haired women can and do get married.
I don’t know about other countries, but I know that in America the idea of a fully black woman having long hair is a myth. There is a stigma that if a black woman has hair that exceeds ear or shoulder length then she must be of mixed heritage. Why do people think black people need to be mixed to have great healthy long hair? When I had a relaxer, very regularly people would ask me what I am mixed with and were saddened when they found out that I am 100% black. And now that I have gone natural, the questions come more frequently. ‘Is it a wig or a weave because it can’t be yours.’ Why is this concept so hard to grasp? Unfortunately a lot of lies are fed to black women about hair care and have been passed down from generation to generation. Because the majority of black women try to achieve a Eurocentric look (having straight hair) to fit in, a lot of black women do not know how to properly take care of their own hair. Black women, put dangerous chemicals in their hair in order to conform but are actually damaging their hair. Kinky hair textures have the same growing ability as straight hair textures but a lot of black women are ignorant as to how to take care of their own hair. If we would take the time to learn about our hair instead of coveting someone else’s we could all have healthier hair.