Dark Skinned Women With Natural Hair Cannot Wear Red Lipstick

ImageAs a dark skinned woman in America, I’ve been told plenty of times that red lipstick or any lip stick color in general would not be suitable for me because “lipstick wasn’t made for dark skinned women.” It’s shocking to know that this stigma against black women is still alive and well. In America’s eyes, it’s bad enough that I cursed myself by returning to my natural locks, but now I’ve decided to wear lipstick? How tragic! *insert sarcasm*

Even abysmal rapper A$AP Rocky has gone out of his way to share about his disgust of darker women wearing red lipstick. One may think, ‘oh who cares about the opinion of some rapper guy,’ but the truth is that he is only regurgitating what he has been taught all of his life–dark skinned women are ugly.

Well I’m here to prove that this statement is a complete and utter lie. Any shade of the spectrum can wear any color lipstick they want because all shades of brown are beautiful. For far too long, darker women have been oppressed on their choices to do what they want with both their hair and faces and I’m not gonna take it anymore.

It really does not matter how anyone feels about my choice and other dark skinned women’s choice to wear lipstick. If we like it, we’ll wear it with our faces beat for the gawds! And you can continue to be mad…from OUTSIDE of the club 🙂

If you wear dread locks, you need not apply

Image In the year 2014, it is still shocking to see that wearing dread locks in the workplace is still considered a taboo. A lot of people still view dread locks as unprofessional, or associate it with heavy drug use such as marijuana,

My purpose in posting about this is not to continue beating a dead horse, but to instead ask all of you readers a couple questions. Why is the way in which we wear our hair so important to others? How can we change the dynamics so that way every hair type can be accepted?

Does my natural hair make me unqualified for marriage?

ImageEvery natural black woman has at one point or another been told that their natural hair will guarantee that they will be single forever. We are constantly reminded that black men do not like nappy hair and neither do any other race of men. But why should the way in which my hair naturally grows, eliminate me from finding true love?
      It is not uncommon to find many marriages on the rocks due to the natural hair movement. Men who claim to be turned off and disgusted by their wives decisions to return to their natural hair have practically threatened to end their marriages unless their wives turn back to getting relaxers. It is as if the influx of black women embracing their roots is seen as a threat to some black men. But why is this so?
    If we examine it from a historical aspect, generations upon generations of women were told that in order to be accepted in society and to be hired for jobs, one’s hair had to be neat and straight–the closer to European hair, the better. So in order to stay afloat in society and keep a roof over their heads, black women complied. However, this soon transferred over to the general view of black women as Eurocentric ideas of beauty became more demanding and visible.
   Now that the Eurocentric idea of beauty has taken over the black community, this is all that black men are used to seeing throughout their lifetimes. Thus in return, black men and women view their own natural hair as ugly and unkempt. Black men are also taught to only date and marry women with straight, long flowing hair as a form of high status level.
    With this ideology running rampant within the black community, it is no wonder that past generations of black people are against the natural hair movement. It is also a major part of the reason why it is believed that black women with natural hair cannot be chosen to be brides.
    Having natural hair does not make me unsuitable for marriage. What allows some black men to view me as unsuitable for marriage are their own insecurities. The idea that they will be considered less of a man if their woman does not have long flowing tresses and the idea that Eurocentric forms of beauty are what I should conform to are what clouds their mindsets not my kinky hair texture. Natural haired women can and do get married.

Kinky is not the only definition

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   Under the umbrella of the natural hair ‘movement’ lies many different textures from wavy to curly to kinky. However, I’ve noticed that dreadlocks often get left out of this ‘movement.’ A lot of people have an idea of a puffy Afro and that is all they view as natural hair. Dread locks do fit into the natural hair community because dreads are created by palm rolling your hair (or whatever other methods one can use). I believe that because there is still a large stigma held against people with dread locks, they are often forgotten. Dread locks are a beautiful expressive way of wearing your hair and contrary to popular belief there are a lot of things that you can do with them. Hopefully as we are becoming a more progressive group of people, the stigma against dread locks will cease to exist.