She makes me want a TWA…

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If you haven’t heard of Lupita Nyong’o then I now welcome you to planet Earth. How was your stay on Mars? 

Oscar winning actress Lupita Nyong’o is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen (and I dare you to argue with me about it). Away from her striking features and glowing skin tone, I cannot seem to stop myself from being obsessed with her hair.

I am natural with hair that is about shoulder length but I have never big chopped. I chickened out and transitioned until I was at a comfortable length. Although I am happy with my decision to transition, a part of me wonders what I would have looked like with a TWA.

A TWA, for those of you who don’t know, stands for ‘Teenie Weenie Afro.’ This is the stage in which your hair is cut really short. Lupita rocks her TWA almost perfectly and now she makes me wish that I had one.

I am glad that my hair is healthy and is growing faster than I can imagine, but a part of me wishes I had short hair so it would be less to deal with. being that my hair is very thick and I have a lot of it, washing, detangling and styling can sometimes be a hassle, especially if I am in a rush.

I am still thinking about it, but if I ever get frustrated enough, I just might chop all of my hair off. After all, it’s only hair–it will grow back.

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Is your hair worth breaking the bank?

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Natural hair salons are the biggest scammers. In an age where beauty salons seem to be found on every block, only a small few of these cater to kinks and curls. Natural hair salons who profess that they are experts on how to take care of natural hair seem to be the main ones trying to capitalize on this market.

It is a well known fact that natural hair salons are very hard to find due to the fact that for years black women have been conditioned to chemically treat their hair to appear more Eurocentric. With the natural hair movement currently on the rise, natural hair salons have been popping up but very few of them exist due to lack of knowledge on how to take care of natural hair.

Because of this huge gap in the market for natural hair, a lot of natural hair salons take advantage of this by charging high ridiculous prices for simple things that one can do at home for 1/3 of the price they charge you. It is bad enough that the same hair care companies that were once telling us not to be caught dead without a relaxer are now trying to capitalize on natural hair by revealing “natural hair products,” but now our own natural counterparts are doing the same.

It really all comes down to making money. What wonders can your $200 wash do for me that I cannot do at home for free? I would love to know.

If you wear dread locks, you need not apply

Image In the year 2014, it is still shocking to see that wearing dread locks in the workplace is still considered a taboo. A lot of people still view dread locks as unprofessional, or associate it with heavy drug use such as marijuana,

My purpose in posting about this is not to continue beating a dead horse, but to instead ask all of you readers a couple questions. Why is the way in which we wear our hair so important to others? How can we change the dynamics so that way every hair type can be accepted?

#StopHipsters2014

I am so tired of hearing the phrase, “I went natural before it was popular.” Yes, we are all aware of the influx of newly natural haired women, but it is not fair to marginalize their journey’s because yours started before theirs. Now that the natural hair community had grown larger than in previous years, this phrase has become more and more common against seasoned naturals. But you tell me, after you read this article, do you believe that seasoned naturals are justified in their right to brag? Let me know in the comments below.

Shrinkage IS your friend

   I know the title of this blog post must have you thinking that I’m crazy. Nope I am 100% serious. For my readers who are unaware, shrinkage is the difference between what your hair looks like when it’s wet and gently stretched to its maximum length and what it looks like when it’s dry. Depending on how tight your curls or coils or kinks are, your hair can shrink anywhere from 30% to 75% of it’s actual length.

    Wearing your hair in its shrunken state is not ideal for a lot of naturals but sometimes it can be useful or more convenient when you are short on time. Check out this article on how to wear your hair in its shrunken state.

Does my natural hair make me unqualified for marriage?

ImageEvery natural black woman has at one point or another been told that their natural hair will guarantee that they will be single forever. We are constantly reminded that black men do not like nappy hair and neither do any other race of men. But why should the way in which my hair naturally grows, eliminate me from finding true love?
      It is not uncommon to find many marriages on the rocks due to the natural hair movement. Men who claim to be turned off and disgusted by their wives decisions to return to their natural hair have practically threatened to end their marriages unless their wives turn back to getting relaxers. It is as if the influx of black women embracing their roots is seen as a threat to some black men. But why is this so?
    If we examine it from a historical aspect, generations upon generations of women were told that in order to be accepted in society and to be hired for jobs, one’s hair had to be neat and straight–the closer to European hair, the better. So in order to stay afloat in society and keep a roof over their heads, black women complied. However, this soon transferred over to the general view of black women as Eurocentric ideas of beauty became more demanding and visible.
   Now that the Eurocentric idea of beauty has taken over the black community, this is all that black men are used to seeing throughout their lifetimes. Thus in return, black men and women view their own natural hair as ugly and unkempt. Black men are also taught to only date and marry women with straight, long flowing hair as a form of high status level.
    With this ideology running rampant within the black community, it is no wonder that past generations of black people are against the natural hair movement. It is also a major part of the reason why it is believed that black women with natural hair cannot be chosen to be brides.
    Having natural hair does not make me unsuitable for marriage. What allows some black men to view me as unsuitable for marriage are their own insecurities. The idea that they will be considered less of a man if their woman does not have long flowing tresses and the idea that Eurocentric forms of beauty are what I should conform to are what clouds their mindsets not my kinky hair texture. Natural haired women can and do get married.