I was almost snatched bald

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As per usual around this time of year I decided to do a protective style. I am well aware of my lazy natural status and with my hectic work/class schedule, twisting my hair up every other night was no longer an option.

In the past I have done box braids, Marley twists and faux dread locks, so this time around I opted for a sew in. I also decided to try a closure this time so I wouldn’t have to bother with straightening a leave out and damaging my hair. Unfortunately I am not an expert in hair weaves being that I have only had one in my lifetime, so what I am about to write next will raise many red flags to those of you who know what you’re doing when it comes to weaves.

I decided to have my cousin do my hair for me because she always boasted about how well she does hair and that she wouldn’t charge me as much as a salon would–so I took the bait. She began braiding my hair in a circular bees nest formation and at first I felt no pain at all, but then she reached the middle of my head and I almost passed out. That was not an exaggeration, I began to feel weak, my vision got blurry and I began to hyperventilate. Never in my life have I had my hair braided that tightly.

Apparently my heavy breathing and weaseling out of my chair was not an indication for my cousin to stop braiding my hair, so I had to physically remove her hands out of my hair and ask her to loosen them. She claimed that she could not loosen them for me because if she did, the weave would not lay right on my head and would look ugly. At this moment I foolishly decided to go through with the weave hoping that by the end of the night or the next day the pain would stop and I would be fine.

LIES. The pain only got worse as the night went on. No matter the amount of Excedrin or Tylenol I took, the pain did not cease. I only slept for 2 hours due to the intense pain I was in that no amount of scalp or water massages could get rid of. Although my hair was laid and the weave looked excellent, it was not worth it. I would rather stay alive and deal with my own natural hair then possibly die with a laid weave.

That morning I ran back to my cousin’s house and begged her to remove the weave. At first she tried to get me to keep the hair in because ‘it looked so good on me’ but I didn’t stop badgering her until she did it.

I had not realized how bad the damage was until the sew in was removed. What I thought was just pain turned out to be worse. My scalp was tender,red, sore and swollen. I could not even graze my scalp with my finger without shocks of pain being sent throughout my body. On top of this discovery, my cousin had talked me into letting her blow out my hair so it would be more manageable for me. The heat plus my sore scalp only put me in more pain and made my hair harder to detangle.

Unfortunately my sew in experience was terrible but until my scalp heals, I will be rocking two french braids. What has been your worst hair experience?

I’m bored with my hair!

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As you have read in the title above, I am bored with my hair. Although I am a lazy natural and do not take care of my hair as often as I should, every so often I find myself getting bored with my hair. After months of doing twist outs, braid outs, bantu kots, head wraps and puffs, I have found that I have become bored with my hairstyle choices. Due to the fact that I have become increasingly busy, I no longer have the time to do my hair and thus find myself repeating hair styles over and over again. Now I want to try something different.

I want to take a risk with my hair instead of constantly worrying about length and growth. I was thinking of dying my hair a random color such as silver or purple. I know that these colors are not the typical light brown or burgundy that most naturals tend to stick to when it comes to dying hair, but I do not like to do what everyone else does so they would be perfect for me. A streak of purple or a streak of silver would be new for me but it would allow me to move out of my comfort zone and add some personality to my hair and my appearance. However, I am terrified of having to repair the damage done from bleaching and coloring my hair.

I also thought about giving my hair a break all together and doing marley twists again. I loved my twists when I got them done last summer and I would not mind having them again, except I would want my twists to be much larger (I love big chunky twists). This option would be a win-win for me because while I can enjoy trying new things to the marley hair, my own natural hair gets to be protected from the winter approaching. Lord knows I love my twists but I am also contemplating getting faux locs again. One of the main reasons I love chunky twists is because they share a similar look to locs, so why not just get faux locs and call it a day? (the take down process is also much much easier).

As indecisive as I am, it will take me a while to finally make up my mind, but as for you all, what protective styles or new things are you trying with your hair for the winter?

Hair extensions…for men

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For centuries it has always been known that women are usually the gender to wear hair extensions, however this may soon no longer be the norm. Jamaican Dancehall artist, Vybz Kartel has received a lot of flack for his new hair extensions (picture above). Known for his low cut, his new change in appearance comes as a shock to many of his fans not only in Jamaica but across the world. Is it still taboo for men to wear hair extensions?

 

 

 

 

 

New Blog!

New Blog!

Hey guys, I’ve decided to create another blog, one that’s more personal to me. My other blog is where I write about my experiences as an awkward black girl as well as my reaction to current issues. If you want to check it out, you can click on the link!

www.diaryofanawkwardblackgirl.wordpress.com

Thanks for reading!

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Dark Skinned Women With Natural Hair Cannot Wear Red Lipstick

ImageAs a dark skinned woman in America, I’ve been told plenty of times that red lipstick or any lip stick color in general would not be suitable for me because “lipstick wasn’t made for dark skinned women.” It’s shocking to know that this stigma against black women is still alive and well. In America’s eyes, it’s bad enough that I cursed myself by returning to my natural locks, but now I’ve decided to wear lipstick? How tragic! *insert sarcasm*

Even abysmal rapper A$AP Rocky has gone out of his way to share about his disgust of darker women wearing red lipstick. One may think, ‘oh who cares about the opinion of some rapper guy,’ but the truth is that he is only regurgitating what he has been taught all of his life–dark skinned women are ugly.

Well I’m here to prove that this statement is a complete and utter lie. Any shade of the spectrum can wear any color lipstick they want because all shades of brown are beautiful. For far too long, darker women have been oppressed on their choices to do what they want with both their hair and faces and I’m not gonna take it anymore.

It really does not matter how anyone feels about my choice and other dark skinned women’s choice to wear lipstick. If we like it, we’ll wear it with our faces beat for the gawds! And you can continue to be mad…from OUTSIDE of the club :)

She makes me want a TWA…

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If you haven’t heard of Lupita Nyong’o then I now welcome you to planet Earth. How was your stay on Mars? 

Oscar winning actress Lupita Nyong’o is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen (and I dare you to argue with me about it). Away from her striking features and glowing skin tone, I cannot seem to stop myself from being obsessed with her hair.

I am natural with hair that is about shoulder length but I have never big chopped. I chickened out and transitioned until I was at a comfortable length. Although I am happy with my decision to transition, a part of me wonders what I would have looked like with a TWA.

A TWA, for those of you who don’t know, stands for ‘Teenie Weenie Afro.’ This is the stage in which your hair is cut really short. Lupita rocks her TWA almost perfectly and now she makes me wish that I had one.

I am glad that my hair is healthy and is growing faster than I can imagine, but a part of me wishes I had short hair so it would be less to deal with. being that my hair is very thick and I have a lot of it, washing, detangling and styling can sometimes be a hassle, especially if I am in a rush.

I am still thinking about it, but if I ever get frustrated enough, I just might chop all of my hair off. After all, it’s only hair–it will grow back.

Defending Your Natural Hair Can Cost You Your Job

ImageThe woman pictured above is Rhonda Lee, a former meteorologist at KTBS 3 News in Louisiana. Lee says she was fired from the station because of the comments that she made on the KTBS Facebook page.

Lee professionally responded to people on the Facebook page who wrote ignorant things about her hair such as ‘unless she is a cancer patient, she needs to grow her hair out.’ (click the link to see a screenshot of her response) She also responded to a viewer who accused her of being racist because all of the children in a segment were black. You can also see her response in the link above.

What bothers me about this story is that no one in this story understood why Lee defended her choice of hairstyle. Everyone around her kept pressuring her to grow her hair out so she could be employed. Why does a woman have to have a weave in order to report the weather? What does a hairstyle have to do with a persons ability to perform at their job well?

If it wasn’t clear before, it is clear now that natural hair is still not welcomed in the workplace or in public. It is also made clear that if you respond to hecklers by trying to educate them on why and how your hair grows the way in which it does, you are doing something wrong. Once again, black women must shut up and roll over so the world can stomp on us and if we don’t let them then something is wrong with us.

I’m not here for people who think that black women should change every part of themselves to appeal to white American culture, why can’t we express who we are and be proud of it?

Can my birth control pill lead to hair loss?

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Here’s a heads up for all transitioners and naturalistas (people who are growing their relaxers out instead of cutting off all of their hair). Did you know that taking and/or switching your birth control pills can lead to hair loss? I know, this is the worst thing to hear as you are trying to grow your hair out, but it happens. Because birth control pills cause changes in your hormone levels, one of the side affects is hair loss. This change causes the androgen receptors (male hormone) to activate, thus minimizing hair follicles and leading to hair loss. (Fox News)

If you are taking birth control pills and are worried about this or are experiencing hair loss, talk to your doctor about switching back or switching to a new birth control pill.